Marriage is a fear not just for women but also for men. Men, as well, take multifold responsibilities and build many plans and dreams on the corner of their heart. While a woman thinks of how to build her family, a man becomes lost in thoughts as in how to balance his finances and still doesn’t fail to make every member in his family happy. The real beauty they’re! For a happy marriage, it needs effort from both, the men and women.
Respect each other’s choice regardless of who is right or who is wrong. You’re not into a war to decide who wins. It’s a feeling and a different idea from both sides. When one is so strong with what they say, don’t keep arguing on the thing. It’s absolutely fine to adjust and tap on their back. Value your relationship more than your ego.
*Argue and Fight, but Bounce Back.
No matter how well things go between you both constantly, there will be instances where both of you will lose your mind and start arguing. It’s natural. Argue for a very short time and try to resolve the problem as soon as possible. If it feels like never-ending, both of you stop it right there and give it some time. Either one of you will understand and bounce back to normal, which will make the other understand. Things said calmly has more power to solve fights.
*Be Best Friends at First Place.
This is more important. Be each other’s bestest friends. Do all that a friend does. A tease, a prank, a care, a love, and crack every possible lame jokes and laugh. Literally laugh! Lock your phone and leave the social media behind and talk looking at each other’s face. Smile and say things. Discuss about anything and nothing. It makes your relationship stronger day by day.
* Appreciate Each Other.
Even if they look bad, appreciate them, their looks, and all the little things they do. Even if there are lots of people to admire and appreciate them, they’ll look for your comment and feeling about them. Give all your love, hug them, and appreciate with all your heart.
*Trust him/her. Always!
This is the foundation to build a relationship in a more mature way. Good or bad happenings, always believe your partner if you’re sure that they won’t go beyond the limits, because that’s how you have always known them from the beginning. Suspecting is a disease. Once it becomes stronger, nobody, not even you, can save your relationship. It’s like losing a real treasure for a useless imagination.
* Little Space and Privacy.
Fight as crazy as you could. But never take it to the ears of anybody. Anger and fight make you forget about your partner’s good things they possess. It is the time where you puke out all the shitty words against each other. Never ever let anybody know about it. Your fights resolve within hours but gossips go on forever. Don’t let anyone label you both as “Bad”. It’s a disrespect you show toward your relationship.
* Being Grateful and Being Sorry.
They say it’s not necessary to say ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’ in a relationship. False. If is important to say ‘thank you’ for every little good thing. And, say sorry even when you make the slightest mistake.
*Be Honest even when it’s Hard.
If you ever decide to commit yourself in a good life, be truthful to yourself and loyal to your spouse. Mistakes are fine. But whatever you do, let them know and never repeat it henceforth. Trust is pure and being trusted is valuable. Don’t lose that.
* Remember, Everything has a Solution.
No fight is worthy to extend it long enough or blow it huge. Everything is solvable. Sit, analyze, and talk to each other. Don’t jump to conclusions or imagine to yourself all the unwanted stuff as it will lead to unexpected misunderstandings between you both.
*Be Kind to Each Other.
I know it’s more tedious to watch our words at the heat of moment. But yes. Be careful of what you say. Be kind. No matter what, be kind. Even the simplest swords of hurtful words from you can pierce them deep. It would turn into a long-lasting guilt if the one you love shed tears because of you. Be careful of what you do or say!
Marriage is a beautiful lifetime commitment. Take up the process without fear. It’s a life thriller with twists and turns. Hold hands and walk together. Carry each other with love. Hug them. Raise one another. Watch them succeed. Be their pillar. Being with that one person, you can win this world. Be better and build to be the best. Because, Love is all that you need. Love beyond limits! ❤
© Yashica Priya